to be a woman
to be a mother
to be a professional
to be educated and ambitious
to be in a relationship
to have children
to be an expatriate
to be who you are
where you are
you find yourself making choices
your life is a pile of puzzle pieces
you think and look and you shuffle the pieces
you try and go to work and it doesn‘t work
there is no work for you in this city
you have children
you have no childcare
you stay at home
you are miserable
you stay at home
you are happy
you go to work and it works
there is no work for your partner in this city
you are an expatriate
you are a mother
France Midwife, public health
French Italian Partner
Mother to four children 11, 8, 6, 3 years old
I work for Médecins Sans Frontières, at the medical department.
I’ve been here, in Geneva, at the home office for two and a half years now. We were on-site before. My husband also works in humanitarian work. He hasn’t had a permanent job since we moved here, and although he is looking for it, at the moment it’s fine. He has worked a lot in the last fifteen years, so it’s good that it’s not always him who works.
We have four children conceived in Afghanistan, Chad and Burundi. They are being brought up in a double culture, but I always gave birth in Paris. I find that birth is a powerful moment. It is important for me to have that anchoring point, for them to know where they come from. Thereafter, we may live anywhere in the world.
I always thought that big families were great, so I fancied the idea of having one myself, but I always wanted to have my professional life too and to be able to reconcile the two. Up to now, I’ve managed, later on, we’ll see, the children are still young.